"Raising a daughter has challenged me in various ways. To look inward and truly self-assess my beliefs and my behaviors...good, bad, or indifferent. I had to realize that my growth and development could not be stagnant so I could operate in a capacity to fully and authentically support and pour into the life of my daughter. At that point, I began to think about ways I could strengthen her foundation, especially the viewpoint she has of herself and her identity. 

I feel like growing up in Los Angeles, the concept of being Latina is much different than in other parts of the United States and the rest of the world. So being a black girl too, as she gets older, her hair becomes more and more curly, and her melanin deepens, I am intentional about making sure she’s secure and conscious of her identity. Teaching her early on about her history and her heritage will play such an important role in her growth and development. 

I want my daughter to feel comfortable navigating the duality of her African and Latino cultural identities. That's why I never hesitate to share videos of her speaking Spanish. I have a passion for the African diaspora and specifically Afro-Latino community, and now my daughter is a product of it.

I just want to make sure I can support her with her multiple identities. 

I know I have to understand it because it’s going to be so vital for her. She's going to face the struggles I faced, that her mother faced, but she's going to face it in a whole different scale because of the way society is. I just want to make sure I can support her with her multiple identities. Being authentic, that has always been something I've been intentional about. 


One of the greatest things that comes with being a father is legacy. I began thinking outside of myself, and finally I understood what I wanted to create for my family. What culture did I want to re-define for the next generation of my family? The degrees I have obtained do not belong to just me, they are family emblems and a representation of our greatness. They will symbolize a milestone for everyone to reach despite tribulations.” 

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